Welcome to another episode in this trust series on uncomplicated, uncomplicating business. I am Sara Torpey. I'm the creator of selling for weirdos. I love you. I really want to talk about trust some more. 

So this episode is going to be shorter than what's been happening recently, because we've been doing interviews and trust. And as I've been participating in them and listening back to them, I've been pulling out some little themes as a part of, you know, what we've been hearing from these other really smart people about, you know, what working on trust looks with looks like.

 So one of the things that has come up again and again in these conversations we've had about trust is learning to trust yourself first. And this is a particular it's like a specific variety of trust where, like mint chip is a specific variety of ice cream, right? And trusting yourself first is a really big part of trust in yourself and being trustworthy and being able to trust your business and your value and your expertise, trusting yourself first is about being grounded in your experiences and your value and your expertise in it when you are trusting yourself first, when you are this kind of grounded so many of the business practices that we want to do day to day, writing posts, creating content, sharing things with new people, making offers, meeting new people, all of those things become easier because you trust what's coming out of you first.

 So I was thinking about this over the last few days, and it was like, Okay, well, how do we practice trusting ourselves first? What does that actually look like? And I think for me, there's a couple of different kinds of things that we're doing when we trust ourselves first. The first is we are thinking about the external inputs that we absorb in their roles. So, you know, maybe so many teachers I am, you are we all are so many people who love to help other people are also people who love to learn. So how many things that you are loving to learn? Are you absorbing at one time? Are you like crash reading every book there is on, whatever thing you're trying to do? And then are you giving yourself a second to ask which advice is for you and which isn't. So this is the thing. Like, are you reading all the posts from that person you're following? Are you listening to all the podcasts? Are you doing all the things and just doing what they tell you? Or Are you pausing and thinking like, Okay, I see what she's saying. I see why she's doing it. 

What part of this works for me that is the trusting yourself. First version. You can have as much input as you want from the outside world, but it is our jobs when we're working in trust for ourselves. It's our jobs to pause and contextualize it. It's like, okay, not all of this advice is for me, what do I want and what do I want to leave? This is really hard to do because so often we're like, well, but this person said, if I take these 23 steps exactly like this, it'll work when really, like, you have 16 steps already, and you don't need seven more. 

You can just adjust what you're doing to sort of match the intention of what those 24 steps were. It's, you know, how do I take this and how do I make it mine? Right? Because every suggestion that's out on the internet, every idea anybody shares me included, is literally just a suggestion. It is evidence they've collected. It's ideas they've had, it's research they've done. It's how it works for them. But our job as individual humans, as business owners, is to say, Okay, I see what you're saying, and how would this work for me? So you are trusting yourself first, when you put the outside input into context about what part of it is for you, the second thing, I think, is asking ourselves first. It's like, okay, I need to today, earlier this week, I have a workshop I recently done that I'm going to make evergreen on my website for paid earlier this week, I sat down, I was like, Okay, I have to go do this. 

And then I was like, do I know how to do this? And I had, like, two days of I don't think I know how to do this. And then I sat down and I was like, Oh, well, how would I do this? If it was me doing it? Right? And I had an idea and I had a plan, and then I asked somebody I work with who helps me a coach, and I said to her, here's what I want to do. Here's what I'm thinking of doing for it is this, like, what are your thoughts, right? I checked in with me before I let her direct me. I also did this recently, like with I'm supposed to be writing a welcome email series for the same thing, and I was like struggling and struggling and struggling, and I realized it was because I was trying to follow someone else's format, and I needed to ask myself what I wanted to say. So the best direction comes inside out, because you do have more expertise than you're acknowledging and trusting ourselves, first is an act of acknowledging that expertise. And then the third thing is really just about checking in. 

You know, do you periodically, once a day, twice a day, in your journal, every now and then, think like, okay, am I trusting myself who's directing this process, right? Am I the driver of the process here? Am I giving my power away to someone else who's driving here? Sometimes I ask myself, like, who's driving here? And I'm like, oh, gosh, anybody but me? And sometimes that's okay, but most of the time, trusting ourselves first is allowing that we can be the driver. So for you today, you know, what does it look like to build trust in yourself first? Because there is trust in ourselves, but there is trusting ourselves as the expert in ourselves, because noone knows us better than us, right? Have you allowed yourself to be the expert in you? Have you allowed yourself to take the expertise that's coming at you and contextualize it in a way that will help you to not just take it as full truth, but make it yours? Have you checked in and have you let yourself seek your answers inside out, inside first. These are things to consider. Reach out to me if you have questions. 

This is just a little tiny in between all the interviews episodes. We're going to have more of these practices. I have a whole list of them that I want to talk about. Let me know your thoughts. Let me know what's useful for you. And if you have more questions or more practices you want to see, feel free to reach out. I'll talk to y'all guys soon.