3 Steps to Simplify Anything

Welcome to uncomplicated business. I'm so happy to see you. I am Sarah. This week we're going to talk about simplifying things. My favorite thing to do as a coach and a human is simplify things like this is my role on the planet, I think, is to help all of my people and all the people, all the places, make all the things that they do simpler, we do not need to make anything as complicated as we make it you and I both know this, we know we do this as humans. And so today, what I want to share with you
is basically three, three thoughts, three steps, three questions.

 I can't remember even when I called it in the notes, three, three pieces that will help you simplify basically anything. I use these pieces most often in my business, but I also use them in my day to day I use them with my kids all the time. I use them for anything that feels overwhelming. And here's the thing to call these steps is really giving them a lot more credit than they need, number one, number two, you don't have to use all three of them to make something simpler. They're actually each one is in their own right will help you simplify what you're doing. But all three together are freakin magic. So think about something right now, like pause. Think about something in your business or your life that is feeling very complicated. One of the things I'm doing in the next couple of weeks, I'm giving a talk on simplifying self care to people to like 300 moms and teens. And you know, we're gonna use these steps that day. So if you it might be taking care of yourself, it might be your business, it might be marketing, it might be networking, it might be making money, it might be your home, whatever it is you're thinking about. So pick the thing, set it in your brain, pick one. And here are the three things to think about. 

The first is everything is simpler when we make it ours. So the question becomes, how do you make this thing you're trying to simplify feel more like you? Nine times out of 10 when things are complicated when clients come to me with their business questions when they say, I don't know how to do this marketing, making money feels really complicated. What I see time and time again, what happens for me too, is that when people come in, things are feeling very complicated. They are more often than not tight trying to use a process or a system, or a practice or an expectation of how something should look that doesn't fit them. Right. It's trying to market in a way that doesn't feel like you. It's trying to sell in a way that doesn't feel like you, it is trying to take care of yourself by going to you know, a gym or a class or, or doing something that you hate. Like, that's that's not gonna work. If you don't like it. It's like, you know, my husband was super into CrossFit for a while. And so for about a year I went to that gym with him. But it was never my thing. I loved the people, but not the workout. And so like I didn't, I wasn't really good about going because I didn't love it. It didn't feel like me. So what about this thing that's feeling complicated? Doesn't feel like you? What, what feels icky? What is feeling complicated? Because like, it's just not the way you either naturally do things are want to do things? And what if you let those things go? 

Seriously, you could, because here's the thing, there's 1000 ways, a million ways to do any one thing. And almost all of those ways work for someone. So why do you have to use this particular single way? And never change? That doesn't make any sense for any of us. So when you look at your process for marketing, for example, if what you're doing is sending a lot of DMS or you're posting a lot you're I mean if you're just like oh god, I hate this and it doesn't, it doesn't feel like it's working. It doesn't it's not the way I want to do this social media gives me hives like, well then let's do a different. It's gonna feel less complicated. If you embrace the things that feel like you period. That's just the truth of it. So like what feels like you. So that's number one. Sometimes that's all you need. Sometimes that's the starting point. 

But the second thing you can do to make things simpler every single time is to make it smaller. So instead of how am I going to change my marketing? How am I going to read you? How do I care for myself? How am I going to, you know, change how I make money? How am I going to, you know, change my social media strategy? Good lord? What's the simplest smallest thing you can do today? Seriously, what's the smallest next step? Sometimes it's just deciding that you're gonna try something different. You know, I think about this all the time. What is the simplest offer I can make today? When I feel like I'm getting all tangled up in selling and marketing, because I do too. We all do, like normal human over here. Not any different. When I feel like I'm getting all tangled up, it's like, Okay, what's the simplest next step I can take? More often than not for me, because I know what my sales process is my super simple sales process. More often than not, it's okay. I need to go make some sort of simple invitation. And then my brain is like, Oh, my God, I don't know what I'm gonna say. And I think, of course I do. I'm gonna give myself two minutes, I'm gonna write a post and I'm gonna walk away. Like, literally, it takes me three minutes sometimes. And I might worry about it for three hours. But when I go and write the thing yesterday, I wrote a post for the class. 

I'm leading in March. And I was like, oh my god, what am I going to say? How am I going to do this? I have to make software. I don't know what a Baba Baba Baba Baba brain was having a field day. And really, the offer was, if you're feeling like you're selling is complicated selling by giving can help done and walk away, put down the mic, move on, take your fingers off the keyboard walk away, like in the cooking contest. When they're like and Baker's Your time is up, and they all put their hands up. This is the same thing. What can you do? What's the smallest next step? I think of it like sometimes we try to climb a mountain, right? Or like the thing is you're trying to eat the elephant in one bite. I don't want to eat an elephant. So I think of it like mountains. i It's really, really, really hard for me to climb a mountain in one day. But I can step over a grain of sand. I can even step over 10. And like, it's not a thing. I maybe probably do that all day long, right? So thinking grains of sand, what's the grain of sand that you can step over today to create progress? That feels so much simpler than trying to scale a mountain in one bite? Well, that's a conflicted, conflicted analogy, I were scaling mountains and eating them at the same time. I don't know, I don't know what just happened right there. 

The third thing that we can do to make things simpler on ourselves, is to normalize them. So in terms of self care, for example, the example I'm giving in this talk is, you know, we all get, you know, if if our normal is zero self care, right? Maybe changing the normal two to five minute things. So you get to you at 10 minutes of self care day, maybe that's the minimum, we change the minimum. That changes other things, right? If we change what our expectation of normal is, every day normal course stuff, then it gets a lot less complicated, because it's just us doing what we do. Now, in the process of creating making things normal, it can be tricky, because we have to practice that right things don't get normal overnight. But I'm a good example of this, for the last Gosh, 14 1516 months I've been working on, you know, have an idea write a post. When I first started doing that, it felt really complicated to be like, Oh my gosh, no, I'm gonna go have that idea and write it down and post a post. But now, if I can't do it in the moment, I write it down in this little sticky pad right here next to my desk. And then the next time I have five minutes, I go read the post doesn't take me very long. But it's my normal. So marketing has become less convoluted for me. Because I can just, like have the idea. Go post it move on. Right? It's become very normal. It's become normal course. And when my brain is like, Oh, my God, you don't have anything to say. I think that's not right. I always have something to say. I always have something to say. I could say the same thing I said yesterday, and it would be fine. You could say the same thing every day, and it would be fine.

So what could you normalize? What process what thing that you're Doing is feeling like it's new all the time right now. And where could you go? Okay, this is just normal. This is just what I do. And you could take sort of a label of new and hard and scary off of it. And just be like, This is what we do. This is what I do as an entrepreneur, I show up and make offers. I show up, I connect to people. I show up. I'm a goofball, tic TOCs. Like, that's fine, too. That's kind of me right now. I show up and make goofball, tic TOCs. Like, it's every day. I'm like, Who? God? Do I want to do that again? Yeah, I do. That's fine. But I'm making it a part of my normal. What can you make a part of your normal? And here's the thing, in any given moment, when things are complicated, you can do all three of these things. You can. Sorry, my brain melted for a minute there. You can make it yours. Make it smaller and make it normal. But any one of those things would help. You know, is it how can I make this feel more like me? How can I make this smaller? How can I take a smaller bite? And how can I make this feel like it's every day? It's a normal part of what I'm doing? If you ask yourself, those three questions, right now, things will get simpler period. Because they have to, because if then it strips out the complication, we're stripping all the extra out, when it feels like you, when there aren't a million moving parts, when the parts are small. And they're things you do all the time. 

There's nothing complicated there. It's like that thing you do over brushing your teeth, right? It's just like that we know exactly how to brush our teeth, we get out the toothbrush, we put on the toothpaste, we brush our teeth, we spit in the sink, we move on, we rinse out the sink, this is what I'm trying to teach my children right now, it's a whole different thing that's complicated. But it doesn't have to be as hard as we're making it. Nothing does. Simplifying is simpler than you think. So for me for you. If the thing that you're like, oh my god, selling is the thing, selling is so hard. Friends. Come sell by giving with us. Selling by giving in the class I'm teaching in March is all about simplifying, selling. It is all about making this less complicated. In three steps. When we sell by giving, we create a process that feels like you, because you are a giver by nature, you're not listening to this podcast, if you're not trust me, you are a teacher, you're a helper, you're a giver, you're somebody who's out there with their heart out who really just wants to serve more than anything. And you know, I have had on that. 

So I've had to find a process that feels like that. And it is not the average sales process. Because that average sales process is built for salespeople and MBAs and I am neither of those things. I sold algebra yes to children, but different, right feels different. So selling by giving is all about simplifying this. If you are curious about it, come into my Facebook group, which is the same name of this podcast, uncomplicated business for teachers helpers and givers. If you want to complain in the Facebook group, come join. If you're curious about selling by giving, there's plenty of posts about it in there. If you're really curious, go to my website, which is Torpey coaching.com. Go to forward slash workshops. And it's there and you can enroll. And you should we would love to have you because honestly, simplifying your sales process right now is going to make you more money for ever, in a less complicated way. You can get further faster, more easily. And what is nothing is bad about that. So the other thing is if you need me if you have questions about this, if you want to talk coaching, if you want to ask a million questions about simplifying things, send email, send carrier pigeon, find me on Facebook, find me on LinkedIn, but reach out like I'm a human. I like to connect with people. I'm happy to talk with you. Until then, I'll see you next week. Happy simplifying. And I'll see you soon